Patience, that is. I’m in one of those frames of mind where I’ve many things ‘out there’ and no news about any of them and it’s frustrating me. And it’s making me not want to write. I don’t need the success to feel like a successful writer – think that ship sailed with my yoof – but I do need it to validate that I’m at least a tiny bit good at it. There’s a subtle difference.
So I wait and wait and wait. No novel news. No novella news. Not even any People’s Friend news – I’ve the maximum amount of stories I’m allowed to send sitting with them (5). Usually they get back to writers with a yes please or a no thanks or they suggest ways the story could be better and therefore acceptable, but not at the moment. One story was subbed about four years ago. I like writing for the Friend – undemanding and well paid – but not if I have to wait this long. It just makes me not want to bother.
The novel/novella – I’ll have to look elsewhere but I felt cautiously hopeful and optimistic this time, and if I just don’t hear anything it’s going to be hard to take. I’ll bounce back eventually, I always do, but I really really really just want one person to accept it and say you know what, this is all right….
Yes yes, I know there’s self publishing, but I’d like to be on somebody’s books. Pun intended. I’m not in it to make money (ship, yoof) but because I love it. I am just a bit done talking to the void. An old lady who pushed past me in the book signing queue last night – at Kate Rawles’ signing after her talk about cycling through the Andes – began speaking and I thought, oh here we go, she’s a bit dotty, but I smiled indulgently and she talked. And she made a heap of sense and told some lovely anecdotes about travel. One thing she said was how good it felt to have touched even one person’s life with your words or teachings and she told a lovely story about a student she met years later and far from home and how that student said he’d been affected by her wisdom, who crossed this river, not that, and lived a wholly different life because of it. She was a teacher and I totally get that feeling – I am in touch with quite a few former students who all say lovely things about how I helped them but that’s what I want to do as a writer. I know I have stuff to share, to bring us together. To fill in the gaps between us. I went to find the old lady afterwards, when I got my book signed by Kate, but she’d disappeared. Completely.
Other thoughts this week:
Artists and writers mining their experiences for their art.
I’ve had a lot of varied, weird and wonderful experiences during my life. It’s definitely not been ordinary, and it’s far less crazy than some, but I do feel as if I’d had several very very different chapters in my 51 years. Some days it feels like a lot more than 51 years’ worth of stories. A numbers of events have led to stories I ‘steal’ from myself to fictionalise.
Sometimes the writing is a form of therapy, and I find it very cathartic. I’ve had a very difficult relationship with my father and more recently my mother because of her husband (neither of them read this blog, doubt my father even knows I have one or that I write at all.) My stories with both of them have generated tons of Story and I’ve had some great emotional releases writing about them disguised as not them. I had a lovely time inventing a character called Richard Goodchild who was My Ideal Dad (Aha! That’s in the middle crap novel I was trying to remember a few blogs ago, it’s just come back to me. Still can’t remember its working title, mind) and I loved writing about him and describing situations I just didn’t have (basically any in which there was a dad who liked his daughter.) None of that is meant to sound woe is me, it just IS and I’ve and lots of lovely therapy and CBT and I’ve become very resilient etc etc, and this was the life I was clearly meant to live. The parental difficulties have generated loads of stories that I hope other people can relate to. Show me one person who doesn’t have a complicated relationship with parents…
I’ve travelled a lot and there are many stories there and I’ve lived in a few different countries and houses and had just a few relationships (ahem), many of which have appeared in a variety of stories. I’ve done some extremely stupid things I hope my kids never find out about and taken a fair few calculated and just plain crazy risks, and had a lot of fun along the way with the incredible friends I’ve met. Again, great to add in as anecdotes in character’s lives. It also frees you to invent lots of other situations because living a broad and varied life means you meet a large amount of people, all who share stories….
My coincidences in C&J seem fantastical yet if I told you some of the ones I’ve experienced they’d make my invented ones seem tame. It’s never been six degrees.
So if you’ve writer’s block, think about your own life, the lives of people you’ve met and go on a wander down the rabbit hole of possibility. How could those moments inspire your own work? How could they add emotion?
And always humour old women in queues, even if they barge in and seem bonkers at first. She is definitely already going to be in a story.
Oh. Looks like I’m about to write….